Bonnie J. Rough
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Beyond Birds & Bees

Bonnie J. Rough never expected to write a book about sex, but life handed her a revelation too vital to ignore. Beyond Birds & Bees is her provocative inquiry into how we teach our children about bodies, sex, relationships and equality—with eye-opening, practical takeaways from the author's research and the world-famous Dutch approach.

Excerpt   One afternoon, Dan and I took the kids to NEMO, Amsterdam’s science museum. Drifting together and apart among scores of other parents and kids, we spent the better part of a day exploring everything from kinetics to DNA. When we finally tumbled outside into the afternoon sunshine, Dan dug out water bottles and handed them to the kids as they climbed into the boxbike. Then he turned to me, amazement on his face. “Could you believe that exhibit?” he asked.

“Which exhibit?” Clearly, I’d missed something juicy...


Speaking Engagements

A vibrant, inspiring, and generous presenter who connects authentically with her audiences, Bonnie J. Rough has spoken to groups across the United States and overseas on topics ranging from culture and science to parenting, education, and the the writer’s life. Her audiences vary in size and type from thousands of...


The Girls, Alone

On a journey to learn the fate of her great-great-grandmother Anna, award-winning author Bonnie J. Rough separates from her family for a surprising journey into the difficult past and precarious present of Estonia, the former Soviet state of her heritage.

Excerpt   While I was trying to rationalize the idea of a solo ramble in Europe I decided to call Vona Ema, my grandmother. I told her I was thinking of a visit to Estonia—a place she had never been, and now, due to difficulty walking and blindness from macular degeneration, would never go.

“Do you know where your grandmother Anna is buried?” I asked.

“Nowhere, I would think,” she said. “She was murdered by the Russians...”



As they consider becoming parents in a time when genetic testing offers results that can lead to excruciating decisions, Bonnie J. Rough and her husband find themselves caught between science and the heart in a modern moral crisis.

Excerpt  Beyond abstinence, neither my mother nor my great-grandmother had choices. No gene had been identified. No test had been devised. Not until I was already a young woman would scientists announce that they had discovered the location, on the galactic genomic map, of the HED mutation. Thrilled to tears, my mother called my college dorm room with the news. But on that day, there was something that neither my mother nor I fully understood...


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Sex Ed | Parenting | Education | Gender Equality | #MeToo

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